Hey all,

I just got off the phone with my girlfriend, and now I have strange feelings. She went out with some coworkers on Friday night. She told me on Friday that it was a "girls night out." Spoke to her today and she said her coworker's boyfriend brought his friends along. At this moment I started to feel insecure...

I started thinking about a previous conversation we had: we discussed what we valued most. I value loyalty and she values trust. Okay so I'm thinking "Do I trust her? Yea, I trust her (Yes,I am having a conversation with myself)... I trust her, I think I'm insecure."

Became interested in why so many men are insecure- I googled"trust and relationships" then after that I searched "insecurity and men." The articles I read talked about lack of self-confidence being the case for insecurity issues. So you guessed it! Searched "confidence building."

Found a great site called mindtools.com. Read an article on self-confidence at this link.

Crazy, I'm confident and optimistic in the majority of situations. I'm surprised that lack some self-confidence. Well, the online articles were of some help, thus I will improve. Self-confidence is now a "work in progress."

1) Self-Confident: Doing what you believe to be right, even if others mock or criticize you for it. Low Self-Confidence:Governing your behavior based on what other people think.

2) Self-Confident: Being willing to take risks and go the extra mile to achieve better things. Low Self-Confidence: Staying in your comfort zone, fearing failure and so avoid taking risks.

3) Self-Confident: Admitting your mistakes and vowing to learn from them. Low Self-Confidence: Working hard to cover up mistakes and praying that you can fix the problem before anyone is the wiser.

4) Self-Confident: Waiting for others to congratulate you on your accomplishments. Low Self-Confidence: Extolling your own virtues as often as possible to as many people as possible.

5) Self-Confident: Accepting compliments graciously. "Thanks, I really worked hard on that prospectus. I'm pleased you recognize my efforts." Low Self-Confidence: Dismissing compliments offhandedly. "Oh that prospectus was nothing really, anyone could have done it."