Whenever I hear the words "move on", I add the "dot org" that Clinton and the political group made famous. There's got to be some balance between dealing with it and moving on. You don't want to get stuck on either side.

On the anime side, I got some Le Chevalier D'Eon discs from the library yesterday, and thought of your icon Is that D'Eon or the transformed Liadon or someone else?

Yeah I think it does. In case you give a darn, here is my reason for keeping and cherishing memories. Like I have said before, one good reason to keep and cherish your memories is so that your's, and your loved one's souls don't die even when their bodies do since memories carry the expieriences that gave you your hobbies, goals, friends, so basically your soul is your life, memories don't die, and as long as you keep them close, your souls never die. But it is also important to cherish your memories , your bad ones so that you can evaluate them and learn from them so you can move on and not have to go down that road again, but you still gain some wisdom and knoledge from it. If you try to forget them, that memory will keep biting at you, it will haunt you all the time until it destroys you comepletely. That is why it is important to be strong and have the courage to look back and to face and deal with those memories, to dig through the dark and find the warm light and truth. Like they say, thetruth sets you free!! (They also say Re bull gives you wings, I bought some the other day, and Pizza Hut STILL refuses to give me free wings!! Even after I showed them my empty can AND the reciept that smells sorta like the smoking clerk who gave the Red Bull and reciept to me Argh!!!) My point is, looking back can be painful, but if you keep looking and stay strong, you'll find the light. And of course, keeping the good memories just helps you remember how AWSOME life is!!

Angus_Mac: As a therapist, I often - meaning usually - ask a client to do both, seemingly antithetical concepts, acceptance and change, dealing and moving on. Both are necessary because each is required to succeed. Edit: Oh, I didn't answer your question. The icon is from Trinity Blood, the character is Sworddancer - he's a rogue priest who punishes criminals. DragonSpawn made it for me a year or two ago.

Torferleon248: Hiya, thanks for your reply. I agree that memories make us who we are. Good memories and painful ones. There are some memories, however, that are tramatic and these memories are the ones that cause chronic fear, heartbreak, pain, shame, and all sorts of other things that lead to depression, dysthymia, substance abuse, suicide. And as a threat to health and mental health, these memories need to be treated as a theat. I know that this is somewhat of an 'old-school' approach, but I am old, so it fits with me. I must say, though, you have very healthy and positive outlook on things.

I agree with you denial isn't dealing with the problem. You have to face your pain and work though it to get better.

re: icon. sounds good. is that a good series? I was getting started in Chevalier when the School Rumble 2nd semester videos arrived

I like the idea of using a metaphor to explain things, but I don't agree with your metaphor completely. I would say the incident/whatever is making you unhappy is more like a snakebite than the snake, and if you don't deal with it, it will potentially be very harmful if ignored or set aside, depending on the severity, and presence of venom in the bite. But maybe that's taking it too far or too minutely, I dunno. Anyway, I agree that it's best to cope with feelings instead of pretending like things didn't happen or that something hasn't caused an emotional response.

A_M: Yeah, I thought that Trinity Blood was very good. I gave it a 9.2 here at tv.com. The ending was weak and disjointed, but the story is the creator died before the anime was finished. There is a great deal of geo-political and historic symbolism in anime. And I really dig that kind of stuff.

YM: Heya. Fair enough. When I told my idea to my supersivor, he wasn't as crazy about it as I was. He said that he uses a "disease" metaphore for the same concept. As for why a metaphore is useful in the first place, though, there are many kids whom I work with who are young and some have, as is described in this field, 'a low functional level'. In any case, the metaphore itself is less important than the concept that it represents. And any metaphore, whether it tickles me or not, is useful if it helps somebody understand.

Carrying the snake around sounds like that thorn in my side. That's too bad the creator died; usually the anime studio has their own vision and some deus ex machina ending. Historial fiction is a lot of fun to watch; I recently finished the third season of Kenshin.

I need to quit reading your blog at 4 in the morning, it usually makes me think too much. I need to follow this advice though. I ignore the bad things and bury myself in work or whatever I can to not have to think about them or deal with them. I don't think I deal with it the right way by any means, but I prefer to let sleeping dogs lie, and work things out at their own speed rather than push the issue. Which is strange, because with work I am the opposite, I push the issue as much as I can and am aggressive in resolving work related conflicts. No more early morning couch time for me. Nice blog stq.

A_M: Kenshin is a fun anime. If it has a weak point, I think that it has too many fillers. For Trinity Blood, I think that the exact point when the creator passed is easy to tell as the whole storyline in an otherwise tight-knit anime becomes totally disjointed and forced. I would think that most of the script and story-boards had been completed, but, as you said, the production studio seemed ot have a different vission for the ending. Peaceknuckle: LOL...I have to stop writing them at 4 in the morning. I like that old saying you quote, let sleeping dogs lie. And, I will say this, there is something of a directive where I work, they call it a "treatment hierarchy", and the very bottom of that list is psycho-social trauma and PTSD. They even say that we should never broach those mental health issues with the clients. And there is some sense in that; when a client is ready, their heart and mind will let them know and they will let us know. However, it happens when the client themselves do bring things up, almost always sexual abuse. And I am not an PTSD specialist - I teach aggression reduction and coping skills. And then, 'game-on' because that sleeping dog woke up and is hungy.