I was wondering if anybody out there could advise me on if I'm completely out of my mind or have a point. Basiccaly my brother & his girlfriend are living with me at the moment and the situation came to a head last night so i was wanting independent opinions on if my expectations are too high or unreasonable

BACKGROUND (PET PEEVES)

The following are a few 'issues' I have with the girlfrien, my opinion is she has no respect and puts no thought into the household

- Make-up gets left on the bathroom counter (the bathroom is the size of a small ensuite, she did start putting it away after i got sick of picking it up and threw it all in the bin)

- She uses my things such as a new hairbrush which she broke and i had to replaced

- The kitchen looks like a bomb hit it every time she cooks

- She takes bowls & cuterly to work with lunch (im ok with that part) but it doesnt come back for months and only after i kept asking and kept putting a list of items on the fridge, and after i got them all back she has started doing it again. time for a recount to find out whats missing

- Clean & dirty clothes get left in washing machines, washing baskets or washing lines for days at a time

- She has two rabbits and a dove (did have mice) which she doesnt look after and I'm the one that checks and feeds them half the time (the last time she went near the rabbits was sunday when she gave them brocilli, I fed them properly on tuesday and moved them to fresh grass today)

- She occasionaly does not lock the front door

Now to the occurance last night which involved the last item above.

I got home yesterday morning from the gym after she had left for work to find the front door was unlocked (I have been testing the door before i unlock it myself) and so i left a not on the fridge along the lines of "Please lock the door as this morning it was left unlocked and someone robbed the place" I then proceeded to fill their esky which has been sitting on the lounge room floor for the last week with various items from socks to avocados and i also included the controller to brothers xbox (i apologise to all game freaks for this cardinal sin). Well when i got home which was about half an hour after the brother he basically threw a tantrum and managed to call me immature at the same time. I argued back that i was sick of the above issues, at which girlfriend responded that she would like to be able to have a taste of the icecream in the fridge before its all gone. Now i may be a little on the large size but i actually dont eat that much, in terms of the icecream given that i actually consider that they brought it and that i share a house with other people i only ever have 1 average bowl of it and leave the rest to them as they do seem to eat 4 times as much as me. I then went to the other side of the house and spent all afternoon and half the night crying as I had reached breaking point. Now, at 8.00 I went to hang my washing outside and found the jigsaw i have spent hours on has been half knocked on the floor and a note on the fridge basically saying "I would appreciate it if people would not pig out on the pasta sauce in the fridge as it was going to be our tea". Yes I had pasta for lunch because the chicken i had brought to use all got eaten on tuesday night by them and i havent a cent left to replace it, and i had what might equate to one cup of the sauce and there was more than enough left for them.

Anyway that was the end of it and i had calmed down this morning and come to the decision that if they can get over last night which i have then i dont have a problem with them staying, however i change my mind when i went to brush my teeth and found that she has also put soap on my toothbrush that it is time for them to go and will be telling them tonight that they have till the end of the month to leave.

So the question is am i being unreasonable to expect what i consider very basic things to be done? im willing to accept i could have handled my side of things differently, but trust me even when i have 'mentioned' something hasnt been done it does not seem to matter. sometimes actions speak louder than words.