I know relationships can be tough. I've had my share of break ups. None were pretty and each one was hard to get through in its own way. There's no one way to get over anybody you were in love with. It's different for everybody and it takes different amounts of time. Just be patient. I don't know you and I don't know the guy, but from what you said you ARE better off without him. Seriously if the guy was cheating on you and sharing all of that personal information I'm surprised you don't hate his guts. Be careful about your loving attitude toward that guy, because it sounds like what wives say about men who beat them, "Oh, he really does love me; today was just a bad day." Instead of getting the heck out of there they somehow keep crawling back. Just break ALL contact with the guy. Immerse yourself in other friendships, meet new people, go do things you've never done before. Basically, don't let him continue to get you down. You need to start enjoying yourself. I know it sounds forced to do, but the more fun things you can do for yourself, the less and less you will focus on the ex. Trust me, I've been there.

Ya,I understand that I mean makes sense like I said many people tell me I should just hate him. Though it is good like you said i have not really seen him at all I recently moved to a new town so hard to meet new people here it seems its a aweful small town at 20k people so no bars or malls or really much of anything saddly. Though im trying to break i guess and go do new things. But i guess really is like the abused wives but now that im out of being heavily abused its like I just want to jump back into it odd i know.

But im glad it sounds like in time it heals up then just gota keep my focus so hoping next year it wont be so bad then for this day.Prolly seems bigger now then it will be to me later i guess.

Thank you for the advice.

The first true love is always hard to forget...And you are still so young. You need to realize that you are only hurting yourself by continually brooding over this, especially if you were not at fault. In time all will heal and you will look back at this time and say "why did I do that to myself? "

good luck,,

Well, I'm not in love with a bad guy. But I am in love with a girl that has torn me apart inside. Funny, but I never really knew what love was until I met her. And nothing has brought me as much pain either, i just want to be back to how I was before I knew her. They say "time heals all wounds" But it doesn't seem to do it anywhere near fast enough. Not much help there I'm afraid, stay strong and be who you always dreamed to be.

I can't really comment on the whole bad guy thing, as one I'm a guy, and two. I like bad girls , no I kid I kid lol. Your first love will never be forgotten, that the first thing you have keep in mind. Why you ask. Who the hell knows? MY first GF, I still remember, the anniversary, all the little road trips we took, all the fights that led to make up sex. I mean, I don't think you're supposed to forget. You just have forgive but don't forget, that a rule that I apply to everything. Once you done that you should be able to get over it, and move on. Hope it helps.

@Bogart69
Ya I think so to well,I hope anyways that is the case that in a few years it will not effect me as much as it is now at this moment.

@AzelKosMos
Ya funny how love seems to like hit you like aton of bricks out of the blue huh,Though I guess someone once said better to love then to have never loved. But Im not sure that was a real person either. But ya I think time should help i hope

@Cheif_527
Glad im not the only one who still has all these memoires still then. Though sounds like I always will hmmm maybe one of those little memory things from enternal sunshine of the spotless mind?

Anyways thank you to all,Today is much better but still hard. I think the main thing is yesterday really reminded me of how alone I really am in this small town. Hard to meet anyone or a guy who isn't married who is just looking for someone to to cheat with. Here's hoping for in a few years when im off at universty.

Hey, if you are ever in south FL let em know, I'll take you out, and guarantee you'll have a blast.

I've seen that picture before...along with a few others...if that is really you, then your ex did something very, very, very bad

EDIT: You addressed it in the first paragraph. Is there any legal action you can take? One of the websites I use to host images for these forums and the GAF has you on it...

Ya,im not sure if i can Legaly I know my friend told me once that a few people on Myspace had my pictures. So likely it is on other which is just horriable really. The best my friend thought I could do was write like a email to the websites owner and tell them to withdraw the picture as it does not have my permission.

But if you have sites that have them please let me know and i'll try to email them.So far the only offical one that I host my pictures on is photobucket along with my everquest screenshots.

If anyone else has any legal advice as well on the issue please tell. However I always assumed once its so blantley on the interrnet im bascily in the same shoes the teachers you hear that get fired for pictures of them found online.

wow, how low does the guy wanna sink?

The website is filecabin.com, there is an option to choose clean material (the one I use to host) and then adult material (the one that your pictures were on). I think the name of the adult material side is imagebeaver.com I'm not a member of that so I don't know where the pictures are, just that they are on there.

As for legal advice? You might be right when comparing your situation to those teachers who get caught. But let's all take a step back and talk about this as adults. When you post a picture of anything on a website, be it myspace, facebook, or a site like imagebeaver you have to give a consent that the pictures are yours to distribute. Since it was your boyfriend I'm assuming that they were his pictures...I'm thinking just do the best you can to get them off whereever you find them and if people around your town know and are being immature about it then I'd consider moving away.

Meh,Ya well I did move away for other reasons but it was hard. I mean you get used to it after a while then you just get more looks and more talking behind your back. But I guess some girls would be honored to be all over the internet but really.I'll see what I can do but I doubt emailing them over on a photo site will do much good.

the worst is myspace when the images are used in spam accounts so then if someone i do know later on will prolly think it is me spamming them.But ya it is just kind of creepy thinking of tons of people seeing me litteraly bare.But I just hope they eventually fade away or i'll be 80 showing my grand childern how popular I am still at 18 online

Eh, they'll fade away, I'm 20 years old...the thing that to this day surprises me most about people my age is how free they are with their bodies/sex/love etc. I play football at my University and the aptly named "Football parties" are nothing but girls showing what they've got. Besides, think of it this way, you allowed those pictures to be taken...do you really believe you're the only one who has ever experimented with a camera? Honestly, webcams and digital cameras were invented so that people could photograph themselves naked and not have to deal with getting the pictures developed at a photo center lol....jk jk but seriously it would make some sense. I bet half the people looking at you weird have done the exact same thing, keep your head up.

In some odd way that makes me feel much better. Kind of like well most girls have prolly been photographed then had there ex show people or put it online.So I guess I just have to think more like the whole world is screwed up I guess and im ok =)

Though makes sense at a party for girls to go wild.I mean back in my raving days you were over dressed as a female if you went in a mini skirt and tube top so most wore belt skirts bras and like angel wings.Makes sense that is how it is at college as most girls have prolly moved dont know anyone and the basic impulse or response to attract mates is pyschical attraction I know If i want a footplayer best bet is just making myself out there in a odd way.

My only fear is that i'll meet some guy who then likes me then he goes online finds all these pictures and thinks im a slut or something or someone at school finds them.

lol well, maybe they haven't had them put on the INTERNET....but shown to other guys? Oh yeah, no doubt about it. Sorry to say but men aren't always as nice as they seem, and when you break up all bets are off...hell, on my recruiting visit I helped one of the seniors at the time guess what girl was sending him pictures of her on his cell-phone. When we figured out she was at the party the whole thing got so awkward that I just left. It could be worse, one of the guys I graduated with plays football at the University of Louisville, and one of their cheerleaders broke up with her boyfriend...a week later a bunch of pictures hit the internet...a bunch of bad things happened to that poor girl that won't happen to you so its just like you said, the world is screwed up and there isn't anything you can do about it because this sort of thing moves by fast.

Ha you're into raving? Damn so was I, I'm from Cincinnati, OH and can't wait to turn 21 next year so I can go finding all of the underground spots that my older friends talked about, but even the ones that let 18 yr. olds in had girls exactly like you talked about. Man...sort of makes me homesick.

As for your last fear, I know I sound like a broken record but I wouldn't worry about that too much either. Its all in how you handle that situation should it ever come up. If the guy you're dating finds those pictures and wants to make a scene about it simply tell him that it was a personal thing between you and a serious boyfriend. That way he knows not to expect the same treatment if you know what I mean...I really think that would be your only obstacle, and its easily overcome, just be blunt that it was a special thing and that because you did it once does in no way mean you'll be doing it again, especially with the experience you've had. Even the most pissed off guy in the world should soften up after hearing why you did it.

Ya, I loved Raving though it was in my younger years at 15-17 it was still fun. I remember being gone entire weekends out in the middle of no where or in LA at some small little off the road warehouse. Those were good times very good times. Thinking back also reminds me of my old home town. Though of course the "party flavors" helped make it more enjoyable overall it was a great time just dancing way off in the middle of no where with a bunch of tents.

Makes sense.Plus I guess it was my past so he shouldnt worry I guess to much.To bad im not planning on adult entertainment then I would have my foot allready in the door for that job.

i just think its ******* up that he would do that, i mean ok your now ex's but why? i just cant get my head around why he would do something so malicious

well, I'm glad you're at least somewhat lighter about the whole situation lol you'll definitely be looking back on this one some day and laughing pretty hard I'd imagine...

Oh, and "party favors" are bad

@Chaoscougar1

People are just phucked up in the head; they think that by doing something bad in this case posting her pictures, it will make them feel better. I just think is pathetic that someone will go to such an extent to try to embarrass someone, just because they don't want to be with that person. It doesn't matter what the situation was, this guy has some growing up issues. I believe in karma, and I really hope this guy got what he deserved, for what he did to you. As, for the people talking behind your back, I say let them, they are just a bunch of haters that have nothing else to talk about.

@Chief_527

I beleive in a karamnic system but in a odder way I think we go through hell to become stronger I guess. I mean many think all my problems are more weaknesses but i think there more strengths to in a odd way by suffering it makes you stronger then someone who hasnt suffered. Though funny with all this re thinking of these issues. Im just glad I put my foot down on video's. I think like you said in the end it will all even out or i hope it does.

But really life so far has just taught me, The saying "evil prevails when good men fail to act" is really just " evil prevails"

no, u just havent met a good man yet

Chaism i just want to know one thing is that you in that pic..............i just had to ask im sorry.

Yep, Though really not the greatest picture of me. Plus when I resized it for gamespot it got overely shrinked out as you can see.

don't be soo modest you look really pretty in that picture. as for the guy troubles, its pretty normal. girls feel that way with their first love alot of the time, as well as any love. if you want to get over him you have to just work it out with your therapist.

and I'd say try to forget about the good times you had with him, as that will not help at all. try to focus on the bad, but don't let it depress you, just let it remind you why you don't want to be with him. And even if you might not feel so, you deserve better. as for the saying. I think its that good people only act when they have to, evil acts at every chance they get. especially today...where are all the good people ridding (sp) the world of all the problems we face. they just keep stacking up. murders, diseases, poverty, governments, nature, etc. i think we are in way over our heads.

you 'll get over it in time, but your ex is a jerk for showing nude pic of you to the town peeps... why would you even bother with him anymore... that just tell's you what a low life he truely is...

Oh...DAMN...!now i feel bad...don't ask why...if we ever get to play that fight night match i told you about like months ago when i met you... i will let you win for sure...

Well i know im WAY late responding to this but seeing as how im new to your friends ill give it a whirl. I can say i do know what you mean when you feel invested with someone especially it being a first... I was torn when i found out my first was cheating on me and of all things she listened to her mom for us to break up. Even though i am older and wiser its only been 4 years since ive been dating. All i can say about relationships is this little quote " Relationships are like art, if you work at it long enough and hard enough, it will be the most wonderful thing you or anyone has seen in a long time." It does take a while to get over someone your deeply in for, but with someone being a jerk or any other word, its truly not worth it. People especially women dont deserve to be treated like trash, why is any one guys life any better than yours? Well, ill tell you its not, a guy should be willing to be by his g/f's side and support her not take her down piece by piece. In the end things will become better for you.